Most people who book an evening don't know exactly what they are saying yes to. They heard about it from someone, it sounded fun, and they'll see how it goes.

That works just fine. But there are also people who don't book because they don't know what is going to happen. This piece is for them.

What doesn't happen

Let's start there, because that is where most of the concerns are.

No one has to try anything out. No one has to undress. Nothing is demonstrated on people. And no one is asked to tell the group something they would rather keep to themselves.

You are allowed to watch and laugh along all evening without asking a single question. That happens too, usually with someone who turns out to have the most questions halfway through the evening anyway.

What does happen

Danitia arrives with a suitcase. Everything is in it: the toys, the materials, the welcome drink.

She starts at the beginning — what exists, the difference between vibrating, sucking, and licking, and why one model works for one person and does nothing for another. Not a sales pitch, but an explanation.

After that, the toys go around the circle. You can hold everything, turn it on, hold it against your hand, and compare. That is the part where the conversation usually gets going, because when you feel three models side by side, you start asking questions automatically.

In between there are games, because no one can keep up serious conversation for two hours straight.

The turning point

At almost every evening there is a point where it shifts. Usually in the first half-hour: someone asks a question they didn't really want to ask, there is laughter, and then it just flows naturally.

Until that moment it is a bit awkward. After that, it is the evening you will still be talking about a year from now.

How long, how much, how many people

One and a half to two hours from €250, two and a half to three hours from €350. Includes welcome drink, travel expenses, and all materials.

From two people, up to sixteen comfortably. With eight participants, it comes to about €31 per person.

Danitia travels throughout the Netherlands.

And after

No one is required to buy anything. There is no cash register, nothing is pushed on you.

What does happen: everyone goes home with a discount code for the webshop, and the host receives a goodie bag. Anyone who wants to order something does so at home, in private, without the rest watching.

Want to know more about the three types of evenings? Check out ladies night, bachelorette party, or mixed night.